An honest view of motherhood.

We don’t need no education. Except that we do.

on 17/01/2012

Before we had our premature baby, we didn’t know anything about what it would be like to have one. Why weren’t we warned? Why didn’t we know what it would be like? But, you have to ask yourself, why would we? I mean, no-one really needs to know about having a premature baby, unless you actually have a premature baby, right? Why would the NHS scare an expectant mother by telling her all the nitty-gritty details of being on a neonatal ward, or taking your premature baby home?

It’s right that us mum-to-be’s aren’t told all the horrors, but it’s not right that once you have a premature baby there is little information available for you to find out warts ‘n’ all about having a prem baby.

That’s how I felt. How we both felt. It was all new to us, and every day was a shock. The machines, the beeping, the incubator, the nurses, the expressing… oh, the expressing! When we were first told we’d be in the neonatal unit for a while we thought it might be a couple of weeks. They said it could be 2 weeks, or it could be until his due date – which in our case was 7 weeks. Of course, we thought it would only be 2 weeks and it wouldn’t be that much of an ordeal. We were so blinded with the shock of what had happened I don’t think we were really listening. It wasn’t until we were going to the hospital day in, day out, did we start to realise actually how hard it was, or how long we were going to be there. It was devastating and I don’t think we’ll ever quite forget how it felt.

Why am I going on about this now? I’ve recently been made aware of a charity called Tommy’s. Crazy I’d not heard of them before as they seem quite established, but basically they are a charity that fund research and provide information on the causes and prevention of miscarriage, premature birth and still birth. They’ve just launched a brand new booklet about having a premature baby, and I would have loved to have had a copy when we were in our neonatal unit.

Don’t get me wrong, we weren’t completely in the dark. We were given the best NHS information available, but this new guide is so much better than what we had (I’ve just received my copy in the post – it’s FREE!). It talks you through absolutely everything – even the hospital stay bits. It’s really well presented and has real life quotes from real life parents that have gone through exactly the same thing as you. I read it pretty much cover to cover last night and still found out new information! And I know this shouldn’t be important, but it looks and feels lovely too. Surprising considering they are a charity, but they received a grant from the Asda Foundation which means it’s a quality booklet and smells of posh glue.

Brand new booklet - looks and smells delish

I guess what I’m trying to say is if you are reading this and are at risk of having a prem baby, have just had a prem baby, or just want to know more about it, you’d do well to order yourself a copy. It’s available for free right now at www.tommys.org/store.

4 responses to “We don’t need no education. Except that we do.

  1. What a fabulous post, thank you so much for linking up and sharing!

  2. ababytwit says:

    Thanks Kylie. It’s a great guide. It will definitely help others. x

  3. I felt the same way after having my daughter (also a 33 weeker), despite the hospital’s efforts to provide info, I was still in the dark on a lot of things. Great post!

  4. ababytwit says:

    thanks very much for reading x

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